Ok, so I know the "D" word isn't the coolest or the most pleasant thing to speak about (there are certainly other better D words) but sadly it is a reality for many people that have had to encounter it in one way or another.
When my mother passed away in 2016 I entered what seemed like a brand new world. I had to quickly learn how to cope with my loss. I had just turned 30 and I was also a new mum. Grieving with a new baby and an older daughter, working full time (3 months later), and dealing with other challenges were overwhelming, to say the least. The taboo subject of death often made discussing my feelings and experiences difficult to voice, least of all because I was also trying to navigate them myself. It took a while for me to truly understand how much weight I had carried whilst trying to push on like a robot, obsessed with the duties I needed to carry out as a mother and provider. Through poetry and general writing, I found my outlet.
I decided to write about my own experience in a book that I am proud to say I will soon be sharing with the world!
It then dawned on me that there were millions of people experiencing grief with a heavy heart whilst juggling other everyday trials and tribulations. People just like me felt they needed to internalise their grief and had no true idea what to expect, socially, financially, practically, and emotionally. For this reason, I decided to write about my own experience in a book that I am proud to say I will soon be sharing with the world! My hope is that through reading my book, anyone dealing with the loss of a loved one or that is close to someone experiencing a loss, can receive practical advice, find comfort that they are not alone, and see that it is possible to come out of the other side and at the very least, allow you to live your life.
I want to open up the dialogue about death and how we cope with it in our everyday life
Not every conversation about death has to be morbid or skipped over and avoided. I want to open up the dialogue about death and how we cope with it in our everyday life so that to some degree we are better prepared for something that everyone inevitably will encounter in one way or another.
You'll be pleased to know my book is not going to be like another plain bereavement leaflet, handed over and left in the back of a cupboard while you deal with the reality of your loss. Everyone’s experience is unique and no one will endure the same grief as another. This is why it is important for me to gain a realistic insight into other people's real-life experiences when sharing my writing. The final chapter of my book includes an overview of various perspectives of grief from different people.
I would like to invite you to spare a little time to answer some brief questions on the survey below. Please share with me a realistic insight into how you handled or are handling your very own experience of grieving a loved one, or perhaps even someone you have lost but maybe wasn't that close to.
All information will remain anonymous with some segments included as first-hand research in my book. I appreciate that this is a sensitive subject for many of you so I thank you wholeheartedly for taking the time to share with me what l feel will ultimately help to heal and uplift at least one person out there through a shared experience.
The reality of Coping With Grief Survey
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